How to survive Valentine’s Day, even if you’re single
Not everyone is in a loving relationship, and many people struggle around Valentine’s Day, particularly if they’ve had a recent break-up. It’s difficult to avoid the constant media attention to love and romance, but here are a few tips for staying positive and avoiding some of the common triggers at this time of year:
Take a break from social media
If your feed is bombarded with happy couples and grand romantic gestures, then there’s only one thing for it - disconnect! Even if it’s only for a day. Social media makes it hard to avoid comparing ourselves to others, and at this time of year everyone is competing for the “perfect relationship” award. Take a break and binge-watch your favourite series on Netflix instead.
Make self care a priority
This is always good advice, not just around Valentine’s. Take time to prioritise your own wellbeing, whether that means getting enough rest, taking time to meditate, or cooking yourself an elaborate meal. Whatever self care looks like for you, now is the time to indulge.
Cherish your friends
Valentine’s Day doesn’t just have to centre around romantic love. If you’re feeling fed up then why not make time to connect with friends and family. Even if they’re all celebrating with partners, it’s a perfect opportunity to tell people what they mean to you.
Write in a gratitude journal
Gratitude journaling is a great way to focus on what you have, rather than what you think is missing from your life. If you’re new to it, then start by thinking of one or two things that you’re happy about - whether it’s a good friend, comfy bed or even a sunny day - it doesn’t matter what. Write about what’s good in your life and take it from there.
Connect with nature
If all else fails (and it’s not raining), get outside and enjoy the fresh air. Try to find some green space where you can connect with nature, then take some deep breaths, disconnect from everything else that’s happening in the world and appreciate the beauty of what’s all around you.
Valentine’s Day isn’t for everyone but it’s just one day. If you’re someone that finds it difficult, then hopefully these tips can help you to find your centre and avoid some of the more common triggers.
If you’re really struggling, then get in touch with your therapist, mental health support worker or contact Samaritans.
